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Jason Jonker's avatar

Your three features may help explain sex differences in our volunteers who conduct Bible studies on the topic of addiction.

1) A cause that appeals to compassion for the vulnerable (the care/harm foundation, to use Jonathan Haidt’s expression), tapping into women’s greater average agreeableness.

It is my impression that female volunteers tend to see homeless addicts as vulnerable people; rather than people who have made selfish and terrible life choices. They could be both vulnerable and selfish, but female leaders tend to emphasize the vulnerable and downplay the selfish, terrible choices side of things.

2) A cause that emphasises fearful threats, tapping into women’s greater average neuroticism and risk aversion.

Females seem less inclined to let addicts face the consequences of their actions. Or at least, more likely to have sympathy for them. Men are more likely to see the value in letting a person suffer the consequences of their decisions. This isn't a stark contrast, but men do seem more comfortable with addicts getting some bumps and bruises if that's what it takes to make a change.

3) A cause that offers collective emotional experiences, given that women are more vulnerable to social contagion, and particularly to outbreaks of mass hysteria.

Females seem to be more impressed by and worried about trauma and secondary trauma in addicts and in their stories. They more likely to say they feel exhausted, drained, or secondarily traumatized after a Bible study. Men are less likely to say they need to process or debrief after a Bible study.

I could be totally wrong. And I might just be an insensitive man who isn't in touch with his feelings.

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Esme Fae's avatar

I don't think women are innately left wing. As Louise mentions, women were big fans of the Nazi party. I do think that women are innately much more aware of what the prevailing acceptable ideology is according to the high-status people, and in the past few decades that has been left-wing progressivism. We learn as little girls not to question what the popular girls dictate; if you find yourself at odds with the "queen bee" in third grade you will find yourself being shunned and no one will sit with you at lunch. So as adults, if the popular people (celebrities, journalists, "smart" people with Ph.Ds, etc.) say absurd things, we know it is best to agree with them.

Women have always been the main enforcers of whatever the prevailing mores are. The women in 1692 Salem had no qualms about accusing their neighbors of witchcraft; and ladies were the main enforcers of Victorian rules of decorum and morality. In the 19th century American Western settlements, where women were very few in number, the madam of the local whorehouse was often a respected and influential member of the community - but back East, madams were shunned by the respectable ladies and kept out of polite society.

While women are not innately left-wing, we probably are much more susceptible to the current left-wing victimhood ideology.

Men, in general, seem to be hard-wired to not want to appear to be weak or a victim. It's distasteful; no one wants to be THAT guy. In a group of men, no one respects the weak guy who is complaining and whining about things. I notice that my male mountain bike buddies are fine with a not-very-skilled rider showing up for our group rides as long as he doesn't complain and is trying; but if a rider keeps complaining that the trails are too hard or the pace is too fast he is not going to be accepted by the group.

However, a lot of female bonding is done via complaining about things. In fact, it never goes over well to overtly appear to be significantly better at something than the other women. On men's sports teams, the captain is usually the best player - but on women's sports teams that is not generally the case, and in fact the best player often is the least popular member of the team. So I suspect women are hard-wired to be much more tolerant of people claiming to be victims, and our higher empathy and motherly instincts lead us to feel upset on their behalf. And unlike men, we don't find the idea of being a victim to be particularly distasteful or dishonorable.

When you combine that empathy for victims with the fact that progressivism is the prevailing ideology amongst the elites (aka the cool girls), you end up with a lot of

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