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Carl's avatar

So odd how society is choosing extinction, something even these science fiction writers couldn’t predict. Louise’s talks and writings are what pointed out to me that almost all the defaults in current western society are anti-fertility. Several years ago when my wife and I were 39 (yes, we’re old) we already had two children (boy and girl) and welcomed our third (another son). Our friends and family either assumed it was a “careless mistake” or we were crazy. Why would you have a third kid when you have two already, especially when you already have a boy AND a girl?…as if kids are like something you collect or a fashion accessory, so odd….for what it’s worth for you youngsters, as someone now in his mid-40s who is (finally) done with changing kids diapers (booze helps) having a third kid is the life decision I’m most happy we made and if I regret anything it’s not having another child (I think we could have slipped one in between #2 and #3 and not needed any additional nanny years). My Irish grandmother who had six kids used to say if you have one kid he/she takes up 100% of your time and if you have ten kids they take up 100% of your time. Not sure parents spending 100% of their time on one kid is generally the most healthy balance. Societal collapse can be a bit of a downer, kids distracting you from it helps :)

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Thetis's avatar

For what it's worth, Louise, your content has in large part shepherded me along the way from obnoxiously childfree anti-male feminist to trying for children with my husband, which has been quite the whiplash albeit happening gradually over about 5 years. What has been my lodestar in this journey is the conviction that mine and my husband's values, culture and advantages are excellent, and worth passing onto the next generation. Also helpful is the belief that my husband will protect me if the worst happens - something that many women today can't rely on. Who knows how I'll cope when pregnancy cometh, but I am dying to read your next book.

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