Loved your point about “toughening up”. One of the most encouraging thoughts I had when I was caring for newborns was reminding myself how easy it is compared to my ancestors. My baby isn’t sleeping or just decides to cry for an hour? Well, at least I’m not in a tenement or sharecropper shack with nothing to eat but moldy potatoes. It really did help to keep things in perspective
Louise, I loved your remarks especially those at the very end of the talk. The points you made about status-seeking as a barrier to marriage/parenthood were gold. Highly recommend 1:27:41 to 1:29:57 to those who don't have much time to listen to the whole thing.
Regarding Goldberg’s comments about domestic labor, respectfully, there seldom seems to be any acknowledgment about further duties that men have that are not shared by women, including, for example, a man needing to be responsible for his wife’s security and safety 24 hours a day, and being willing and ready to sacrifice your life to protect if necessary
You were the best Louise - you gave the most refreshing views and I thought had the best grasp and interpretation of the data on this topic. The others seemed to talk in generalities such as men need to do more housework, and the cost of housing which are all things you have already investigated and discounted. We are the richest we have ever been - and still women don't want to have babies. And you're right - when I look back to when my kids were little it is completely a blip - it doesn't feel like it at the time because it's relentless and you just want to go to the toilet on your own without someone calling out 'mum' or worse beating down the door. I am a grandmother now - and your comment about projecting further into your later years is right - I'm so relieved now that I had kids in my 20s because if it hadn't been for my husband wanting them I could have easily skipped it and ended up childless. I just want to say too that for many people adult kids aren't necessarily a blessing - there is so much dysfunction now in each generation that it can be really hard i.e. parents looking after their adult kids who are not self-propelled, and adult kids looking after adult parents when they should be out living their own lives.
Thank you for making the trip to Virginia, Louise! It was great to meet you!
Loved your point about “toughening up”. One of the most encouraging thoughts I had when I was caring for newborns was reminding myself how easy it is compared to my ancestors. My baby isn’t sleeping or just decides to cry for an hour? Well, at least I’m not in a tenement or sharecropper shack with nothing to eat but moldy potatoes. It really did help to keep things in perspective
Louise, I loved your remarks especially those at the very end of the talk. The points you made about status-seeking as a barrier to marriage/parenthood were gold. Highly recommend 1:27:41 to 1:29:57 to those who don't have much time to listen to the whole thing.
Regarding Goldberg’s comments about domestic labor, respectfully, there seldom seems to be any acknowledgment about further duties that men have that are not shared by women, including, for example, a man needing to be responsible for his wife’s security and safety 24 hours a day, and being willing and ready to sacrifice your life to protect if necessary
Wow! Brett Cooper & Louise Perry share a platform! (Get on her the podcast!)
You were the best Louise - you gave the most refreshing views and I thought had the best grasp and interpretation of the data on this topic. The others seemed to talk in generalities such as men need to do more housework, and the cost of housing which are all things you have already investigated and discounted. We are the richest we have ever been - and still women don't want to have babies. And you're right - when I look back to when my kids were little it is completely a blip - it doesn't feel like it at the time because it's relentless and you just want to go to the toilet on your own without someone calling out 'mum' or worse beating down the door. I am a grandmother now - and your comment about projecting further into your later years is right - I'm so relieved now that I had kids in my 20s because if it hadn't been for my husband wanting them I could have easily skipped it and ended up childless. I just want to say too that for many people adult kids aren't necessarily a blessing - there is so much dysfunction now in each generation that it can be really hard i.e. parents looking after their adult kids who are not self-propelled, and adult kids looking after adult parents when they should be out living their own lives.