My debate with Bonnie Blue
I sit down with "Britain's most hated woman" (her words)
Chris Williamson invited me to film this episode with the infamous Bonnie Blue earlier in the Summer, and I hesitated for about half a second before agreeing to do it. I’m so glad I did. I’ll record something more detailed on the experience soon, but for now I’ll say that I found this conversation fascinating, and I don’t think any other interview has revealed so much of Bonnie’s humanity. Feel free to discuss your responses in the comments below.
I can understand how someone could watch or listen to this interview and think that Bonnie Blue puts forth a very good argument to justify what she does. We live such individualistic lives, that it is tempting to think that because she is forthright and honest in her communication, that little harm is being done. However, as I listened to this interview, I kept saying out loud, "but you are harming your community." I don't think she would see it that way, because she considers her community friends and family, who obviously seem to support her. However, she is linked to much larger community than just those people, whether she understands that or not. Each time she has sex with a young man, a married man, or any man, that has ripple effects on the community around her. Young women will see how successful she is and try and imitate her, although they most likely don't have the psychological make-up that she has. Her acts don't just end when the deed is done, they go on and on and on. There's no way to comprehend the effects of her decisions and the decisions of the men that have sex with her.
We have lost the ability to see ourselves as parts of communities that extend beyond our immediate families and closest friends. Humans are meant to work and strive for the good of those around them, not just for their own good. We are connected to those we live around, not just the people we live with. When I hear interviews like this one, it is quite clear that we are losing any sense of connection to the greater good, where we work towards the good of the community as a whole. I found this interview quite sad, because there is a joy in being a good neighbor and to witness a thriving community. I anticipate we will continue to move towards a more and more individualistic society and there's no accounting for what we will lose in the process.
Ngl, my respect for Bonnie kinda went up after listening to the full episode. She came across as reasonable and her personality came off as rather sweet and nice, even if her career choice would be considered a moral failing by most.
There was an interesting comment on the YouTube video that I though was insightful where someone said she almost has a similar mental fortitude to soldiers/spec ops guys in that she can do something that would sicken most people (women in this case) but she can still sleep well after it. Almost like a mental superpower. I thought it was interesting observation.